“On a deeper level you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a playful, joyous energy behind what you do.” – Eckhart Tolle
I am a recovering New Year’s resolution addict. There is something so seductive about a making a list of goals and desires that is superpowered with magical New Year’s fairy dust. We are inundated with media telling us that this year will be better if we just commit. We fall hard for the fantasy of this sexy fresh start and forget all about the past year (“don’t let the door hit you on the way out, 2014!”).
But isn’t it heartbreaking that in our lust for personal growth, our New Year’s Resolutions have us focusing on everything that we are not and everything that we didn’t achieve in the past year? Our resolutions tend to downplay our growth, emphasize feelings of lack, and carry with them the painful underlying message that we are not enough.
There is nothing wrong with having goals and desires, but we must balance our drive with equal amounts of self-reflection. All the goals that we set for ourselves come from a desire to be happy and improve our current circumstances. Yet we often become so forward-focused in our crusade for happiness and self-improvement that we hit our goals and move on before we truly stop to marvel at our successes. Ironically, this is what leaves us feeling unhappy, unsatisfied, frustrated, and unmotivated.
Take a moment to take a good hard look at where you are at today. Chances are that you are living a collection of past goals manifested. Your current “comfort zone” was once uncharted territory. Don’t buy into the ego’s illusion that you are exactly where you were. This past year, you made changes, you pushed through fears, you struggled, you learned, and you grew.
As 2014 comes to close, I challenge you to join me for a New year’s revolution. Instead of writing a list of things that you aren’t or don’t have, write a list of all the things that happened to you and for you this past year. Write a list of your successes, your triumphs, the laughs, the joy, the beauty, the challenges, the support, and the growth you experienced this past year.
Breathe in the beauty and abundance of your life now (not another year from now) and from this deep appreciation and acceptance of the present moment, you can confidently and joyously manifest even more in 2015.