How to Be a Boss Bitch

I’m gonna start this blog the same way most bloggers have started at least one blog…the whole “so, I took a break from blogging and now I’m back” intro. I’ve read enough blogs to know that no one cares. You’re just here for the content, maybe you’re not feeling like a Boss Bitch right now and you’re hoping something here will flip that boss bitch switch back on. Me too! So let’s get to it.

First, let’s define “Boss Bitch”. A Boss Bitch is a fierce badass who takes radical responsibility and total ownership of her life. She knows that if her vibe is low and things aren’t going the way she’d like, she’s the only one that can unfuck herself. She knows that her vibration is her responsibility and that no matter what is going on in her world, it starts there. She’s responsible for the energy she brings into a space.

A Boss Bitch leads even when her crown and heart feel heavy. She listens to the whispers of the Universe (or the SHOUTS to which she’ll probably shout back, “Fine!”). She’s not afraid to ask for help when she needs it, but she’s resourceful as fuck. She’s always looking for magical ways to get back into the vortex when she’s feeling off, which is how I know you’re a Boss Bitch (I see you, Gorgeous).

So, how do Boss Bitches get their Fiercedom back? Here’s how to BOSS UP when you need it most:

Take Inventory. With pen and paper (or laptop), do a Brain Dump of everything swimming around in that pretty little head. Konmari the fuck out of your thoughts and feelings. Lay them all out so that you can REALLY see what you’re dealing with. From there you can decide what sparks joy and what you’re ready to let go of with gratitude. Boss Bitches don’t shove everything in a back room to deal with “later”.

Ask WHO not HOW. If you’ve got things going on that you don’t know how to manage or figure out, stop agonizing over HOW and start asking WHO. Who can help? Who has been through something similar? Who might have the answer? Who has offered support to you in the past? And if you don’t know WHO? Who might know WHO? While this might sound like a Dr. Suess rhyme, Boss Bitches know that even though they often know how, it’s not their job to always know.

Shake it Up, Shake it Off. Boss Bitches allow themselves to feel what they need to feel, but they do it with awareness and they put a timer on that shit. When their inner timer goes ding, even if it’s before they feel ready they get hit their go-to list of things sure to change their state. This is their “Shake it Up, Shake it Off list” and today is the day you will make your own. Write out a list of 27 things (a fortuitous number in Feng Shui) that create a state change in yourself and your environment. Here’s my list:

  1. Take a shower
  2. Get gussied up
  3. Put on running shoes (for action) or heels (for sass)
  4. Make my bed
  5. Clean off my desk
  6. Speed clean the house
  7. Get outside for some fresh air
  8. Go for a run
  9. Brazilian jiu-jitsu training
  10. Call my mom
  11. Call/text my BFFs
  12. Hug my kids
  13. Snuggle with my BF
  14. Eat something delicious
  15. Have a strong cup of coffee
  16. Play with our dog
  17. Write
  18. Blast music
  19. Listen to a podcast
  20. Reach out and offer support to others
  21. Take a nap
  22. Write a gratitude list
  23. Do something bold and brave
  24. Do something I’ve been putting off
  25. Meditate
  26. Wine + Netflix
  27. Ask Spirit what I need most

Now it’s your turn. Take inventory, ask “who” not “how”, shake it up and shake it off. Whatever you’re going through right now, remember that you can’t have rainbows without a little rain. Any setbacks you’re experiencing are just setting you up for one hell of a Boss Bitch comeback! Roar!

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How I’m Shifting in 2018

Happy weird week in between Christmas and New Years…

I recently shared in one of my favorite groups how much I love for this strange week in our culture. It’s an odd time when you can feel the frantic holiday energy starting to calm down and a reflective mood begins to take over the collective.

People are visioning for the future, but there’s no urgency to do anything just yet. Many begin cleaning up, decluttering, and getting organized for the new year, but no one is ready to move at full speed yet. People are kind of working, kind of dreaming, kind of just wanting to be with loved ones or nap or day drink or whatever…it’s like a parallel universe where there are no rules, no pressure, no sense of time. Just a long lazy Sunday. I love it.

As I do every year around this time, I have been reflecting on how I want to FEEL in 2018. What can I let go of? What can step into? What do I want MORE of? What do I want LESS of? What are the lessons I’ve learned this past year and what are my intentions for the year ahead? Simply put, I’ve been listening to my soul and I’m excited to share a bit about what’s come up for me.

As you may have seen in our Best Life Ever emails and posts, we have some big changes coming up in 2018. We’re shifting our business to be working primarily with entrepreneurs and we feel so aligned and energized! We’re (courageously) letting go of some of our services and offerings to expand in ways that will allow us to serve our BLE community even better.

For entrepreneurs or those that have a business idea brewing, we will be serving primarily through our new online course launching Jan 16th called Broke-ass to BADA$$! This 8 week course is everything we’ve learned in the past 5 years packaged in a powerful program designed to give entrepreneurs the business and life of their dreams. If this is the year you’re ready to build and grow your online business and create more FREEDOM in your life, I invite you to book a breakthrough call with us by January 16th to see if this course is right for you.

The other BIG BEAUTIFUL focus for us in the new year is our Shift to Rise retreat April 26 through April 30 in Hau’ula, Hawai’i. I can’t tell you how epic this is going to be. Working with our team to bring this retreat to life has been one of the most incredible experiences. I encourage and invite you to visit our websitejoin our private Facebook group, and set up a call with us to talk about what you would like to shift in 2018 and to see if this retreat is where you’re meant to be!

As I move into the new year, my heart feels full and complete being able to serve joyously through Broke-ass to BADA$$, our Best Life Ever Tribe on FB, our BLE Podcast and Shift to Rise, which is why I have made the decision to indefinitely take a break from 1:1 coaching, personal newsletters, and my personal blog. One of the themes for me this year has been listening to my intuition and bravely letting go of things I love to make way for things that will bring me even more expansiveness, joy, and alignment than my fearful ego can envision or comprehend. Anyone else?

That being said, I want you to know that I am always here for you to support you in anyway that I can. I am so grateful to each and every one of you on this list. Our conversations and connection mean the world to me.

Please do stay in touch and keep me posted on all the magical things happening in your world. Message me and tell me what your vision is for the new year! I’d love to hear! 🙂

Love and hugs,

Kimi

IG: @kimim and @brokeasstobadass

Kimi’s 5-Bullet Aloha Friday (Last One of 2017!)

Happy December! New month and almost the end of another year. With all the holiday happenings, Best Life Ever business shifts and growth we’ve been focused on, our Shift to Rise retreat, and #allthethings, I have really been feeling the need to get centered.

Listening to this calling, I declared today, “Get Yo’ Shit Together Friday” and did a total brain dump (using Trello of course!) and a deep calendar review.

When I start feeling overwhelmed and my ego starts in with that old limiting belief, “I don’t have enough time”, instead of hustling HARDER like I used to, I now work on SLOWING DOWN. I create white space by clearing my calendar (that meant saying NO to a few things today), turning off notifications, and then I ask myself some simple questions like:

  • What’s REALLY bothering me?
  • What is most urgent/important?
  • How can I make my life easier?
  • How can I get ahead/hook up my future self (HUMFS)?
  • What does my spirit need most right now?
  • How can I create more ease, joy, fun, and FREEDOM in my life?
  • And probably the most important question – What can I say NO to?

Your ego will try to tell you that you don’t have time to slow down, but your spirit will speak to you when you do, and life will become much more clear.

Less hustle, more alignment. 

One of the things I’m cutting back on for the rest of this year is certain forms of tech and communication, which is why this will be my last post until sometime in new year! I’lll be dropping back in once the dust settles after the holidays, but you can always follow me on Instagram, our Best Life Ever Tribe on FB and our BLE IG, etc.

OK, so here we go – our last 5-bullet Aloha Friday round-up of 2017!

5 things I’m loving/excited about:

Have a wonderful holiday season! I encourage you to create some time to slow down and ask yourself some quality questions that will improve your quality of life and bring you some well-deserved peace and joy as we move into 2018! Cheers and GINORMOUS hugs!

Kimi’s 5-Bullet Aloha Friday

Hey there! Happy Thanksgiving weekend to you. Just want to take a moment to let you know how grateful I am for YOU. I hope you’ve been enjoying these Friday shares. Drop me a line if you have been and/or let me know if I can support you in any other way! OK, here we go! Another 5-bullet Aloha Friday round-up!

5 things I’m loving/excited about:

Have a wonderful weekend!

P.S. BLACK FRIDAY SPECIAL! Want to learn how to use Trello to get organized and inspired for 2018? Sign up for an Overwhelmed to Inspired Big Vision Session and get TWO training sessions for the price of one!

Get inspired, organized, and focused with the app I use to organize EVERYTHING – Trello! In these spiritual + practical 75 minute sessions, we will take all of the ideas, thoughts, desires, dreams, and to-dos spinning in your head (and heart) and organize them into a digital platform that you can use each day to make real progress towards your Big Vision. Think of this as goal setting + dream boarding + task management. Limited sessions available. Find out more and book here.

Kimi’s 5-Bullet Aloha Friday

5 things I’m loving/excited about:

  • Holidays Made Easy with Trello – You guys know about my love for Trello! I’m super pumped this year to be using Trello to get organized for the holidays. Check out this Holiday Gift Shopping from Trello for inspiration on how to use this cool free tool to get more organized than ever.
  • What I’m Reading – Super Accelerated Living by Bentinho Massaro. The ebook is available for free if you have Kindle Unlimited (so awesome!)
  • Best Investment Under $15 – I just recently upgraded my $9.99/month Spotify account to a Spotify Family account. This means that up to 5 people under one roof can have their own premium accounts for one monthly charge of $14.99! My family is so stoked and now we don’t fight over who gets to listen to music or get annoyed by other people’s playlists cluttering things up.
  • What I’m Proud of – I made it to 100 days in Shannon Algeo’s #GratefulUnicorn 100 Day Challenge and I’ve decided to keep going! This group and practice has totally transformed my life. I’m now shooting for 365 days! Come join the fun if you are a magical unicorn looking for a fun, safe, supportive sacred space to make gratitude a part of your everyday life.
  • What I’ve been eating – Beef stew! It’s been cozier weather here in the islands with a little more rain and temperatures cooling just a bit. Perfect weather for grassfed beef stew! I’ve been throwing everything in the crock pot in the morning and coming home to warm, delicious stew and rice! Here’s a recipe I loosely follow (I switch all the ingredients to organic and skip the regular flour).

Have a wonderful weekend!

P.S. Want to learn how to use Trello to get organized and inspired for 2018? Sign up for an Overwhelmed to Inspired Big Vision Session! I’m so excited to announce a new coaching service I’m offering for a limited time! Get inspired, organized, and focused with the app I use to organize EVERYTHING – Trello! In this spiritual + practical 75 minute session, we will take all of the ideas, thoughts, desires, dreams, and to-dos spinning in your head (and heart) and organize them into a digital platform that you can use each day to make real progress towards your Big Vision. Think of this as goal setting + dream boarding + task management. Limited sessions available. Find out more and book here.

Kimi’s 5-Bullet Aloha Friday

Hey there! Droppin’ in your inbox with another 5-bullet Aloha Friday round-up!

5 things I’m loving/excited about:

  • Cool Training Opportunity – Ditch the “struggle” and learn to let life flow through you. My friend and Shift to Rise co-leader Tarah Long is leading a special course called Infinity Training that begins on Tuesday, November 21st, and will go for 6 consecutive weeks in Honolulu. Request of Appreciation is minimal – only $120! If you’re ready to learn how to live in Reality 3.0, this is for YOU! She has only a few spots remaining so email her today to get in on this super special opportunity: tarah@tarahcyel.com
  • My new favorite app   Overcast. I feel a bit like I’m cheating on Apple, but I’ve been so annoyed with my iPhone’s podcast app since the latest upgrade. I decided to switch over to this podcast player and I’m LOVING it! Much simpler to use and easier to binge listen to my favorite podcasts!
  • Pointless but joyful purchase – Holiday dog waste bags from Petco. Makes picking up poop just a little more festive.
  • What I’m STILL buzzzzzzing about – I know I mentioned our BLE Buzz membership last week, but I’m SOOOOO excited about it and enrollment is about to close on 11/15/17! Join us for weekly live training calls, a membership site full of recordings, exercises, & resources, and unlimited support from me, Pua, and a community of badass buzzers living their Best Life Ever! There is a 7 day free trial, but I have a gift for you! Use the code BUZZFREEMONTH and get a whole month free! See you in the Buzz! bestlifeever.buzz/blebuzz
  • NEW Service I’m offering – Overwhelmed to Inspired Big Vision Session! I’m so excited to announce a new coaching service I’m offering for a limited time! Get inspired, organized, and focused with the app I use to organize EVERYTHING – Trello! In this spiritual + practical 75 minute session, we will take all of the ideas, thoughts, desires, dreams, and to-dos spinning in your head (and heart) and organize them into a digital platform that you can use each day to make real progress towards your Big Vision. Think of this as goal setting + dream boarding + task management. Limited sessions available. Find out more and book here.

Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

5-Bullet Aloha Friday

Happy Aloha Friday! And Happy November! Anyone feeling “busy”? After all, ’tis the season..of busyness. When I work with clients who are feeling “crazy busy” this time of year, one of the first things we look at is whether this is Chronic Busyness or Seasonal Busyness. I wrote a Best Life Ever blog post awhile back about understanding the difference between these two types of busyness because it’s such an important distinction to make. If you’re experiencing a little seasonal busyness as you gear up for the holidays, be easy on yourself and read up on a few strategies that you can use to lighten your load over the next few months 😉

And now for 5 things I’ve been enjoying and pondering:

  • What I’m buzzzzzzing about – BLE Buzz enrollment is open right now through 11/15/17! Life is too damn short to suffer through the week feeling overwhelmed, tired, and unproductive. We designed the Buzz to help people to reclaim their time, energy, relationships, and joy while they continue to CRUSH IT at work and in life. Give yourself the best Christmas gift EVER & join us for weekly live training calls, a membership site full of recordings, exercises, & resources, and unlimited support from me, Pua, and a community of badass buzzers living their Best Life Ever! There is a 7 day free trial, but I have a gift for you! Use the code BUZZFREEMONTH and get a whole month free! See you in the Buzz! bestlifeever.buzz/blebuzz
  • What else I’m excited about – Our Shift to Rise retreat is really coming to life. Check out this FREE training, “How to Get Unstuck”, from our Shift Team! We have another Shift webinar coming up next Thursday on “How to do a life inventory” and we’re announcing $4444 worth of bonuses for this retreat including a special dinner with us Shift leaders and an extra night of stay! Find out more and join our mailing list at www.shifttorise.com by simply clicking to apply (you can choose to apply now or later, but there only 5 bonus packages available through 11/15, so action-takers will be rewarded abundantly!)
  • App I’m loving   Yummly. This app is the best thing ever for meal prep and grocery shopping! Search and save your favorite recipes from the interwebs, search based on ingredients on-hand and dietary preferences, make shopping lists, and even schedule when you want to prepare things!
  • What I’ve been drinking lately – Dirty Chais from Brue Bar. Chai + espresso tastes like gingerbread and feels like productivity!
  • My new favorite nighttime ritual –  Wonderfluff from Acure. I’m obsessed with this affordable, organic, overnight hydrating face mask/cream. Plus I love the quirky language on the tube: “You want some serious winkle fighting, you got it! Yes, we said ‘winkle fighting’. Winkle’s are the magical elves who sneak in at night and try to steal your pretty.”

Wishing you a wonderful weekend!!!!!!!!

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