Kimi’s 5-Bullet Aloha Friday (Last One of 2017!)

Happy December! New month and almost the end of another year. With all the holiday happenings, Best Life Ever business shifts and growth we’ve been focused on, our Shift to Rise retreat, and #allthethings, I have really been feeling the need to get centered.

Listening to this calling, I declared today, “Get Yo’ Shit Together Friday” and did a total brain dump (using Trello of course!) and a deep calendar review.

When I start feeling overwhelmed and my ego starts in with that old limiting belief, “I don’t have enough time”, instead of hustling HARDER like I used to, I now work on SLOWING DOWN. I create white space by clearing my calendar (that meant saying NO to a few things today), turning off notifications, and then I ask myself some simple questions like:

  • What’s REALLY bothering me?
  • What is most urgent/important?
  • How can I make my life easier?
  • How can I get ahead/hook up my future self (HUMFS)?
  • What does my spirit need most right now?
  • How can I create more ease, joy, fun, and FREEDOM in my life?
  • And probably the most important question – What can I say NO to?

Your ego will try to tell you that you don’t have time to slow down, but your spirit will speak to you when you do, and life will become much more clear.

Less hustle, more alignment. 

One of the things I’m cutting back on for the rest of this year is certain forms of tech and communication, which is why this will be my last post until sometime in new year! I’lll be dropping back in once the dust settles after the holidays, but you can always follow me on Instagram, our Best Life Ever Tribe on FB and our BLE IG, etc.

OK, so here we go – our last 5-bullet Aloha Friday round-up of 2017!

5 things I’m loving/excited about:

Have a wonderful holiday season! I encourage you to create some time to slow down and ask yourself some quality questions that will improve your quality of life and bring you some well-deserved peace and joy as we move into 2018! Cheers and GINORMOUS hugs!

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Kimi’s 5-Bullet Aloha Friday

5 things I’m loving/excited about:

  • Holidays Made Easy with Trello – You guys know about my love for Trello! I’m super pumped this year to be using Trello to get organized for the holidays. Check out this Holiday Gift Shopping from Trello for inspiration on how to use this cool free tool to get more organized than ever.
  • What I’m Reading – Super Accelerated Living by Bentinho Massaro. The ebook is available for free if you have Kindle Unlimited (so awesome!)
  • Best Investment Under $15 – I just recently upgraded my $9.99/month Spotify account to a Spotify Family account. This means that up to 5 people under one roof can have their own premium accounts for one monthly charge of $14.99! My family is so stoked and now we don’t fight over who gets to listen to music or get annoyed by other people’s playlists cluttering things up.
  • What I’m Proud of – I made it to 100 days in Shannon Algeo’s #GratefulUnicorn 100 Day Challenge and I’ve decided to keep going! This group and practice has totally transformed my life. I’m now shooting for 365 days! Come join the fun if you are a magical unicorn looking for a fun, safe, supportive sacred space to make gratitude a part of your everyday life.
  • What I’ve been eating – Beef stew! It’s been cozier weather here in the islands with a little more rain and temperatures cooling just a bit. Perfect weather for grassfed beef stew! I’ve been throwing everything in the crock pot in the morning and coming home to warm, delicious stew and rice! Here’s a recipe I loosely follow (I switch all the ingredients to organic and skip the regular flour).

Have a wonderful weekend!

P.S. Want to learn how to use Trello to get organized and inspired for 2018? Sign up for an Overwhelmed to Inspired Big Vision Session! I’m so excited to announce a new coaching service I’m offering for a limited time! Get inspired, organized, and focused with the app I use to organize EVERYTHING – Trello! In this spiritual + practical 75 minute session, we will take all of the ideas, thoughts, desires, dreams, and to-dos spinning in your head (and heart) and organize them into a digital platform that you can use each day to make real progress towards your Big Vision. Think of this as goal setting + dream boarding + task management. Limited sessions available. Find out more and book here.

Kimi’s 5-Bullet Aloha Friday

Hey there! Droppin’ in your inbox with another 5-bullet Aloha Friday round-up!

5 things I’m loving/excited about:

  • Cool Training Opportunity – Ditch the “struggle” and learn to let life flow through you. My friend and Shift to Rise co-leader Tarah Long is leading a special course called Infinity Training that begins on Tuesday, November 21st, and will go for 6 consecutive weeks in Honolulu. Request of Appreciation is minimal – only $120! If you’re ready to learn how to live in Reality 3.0, this is for YOU! She has only a few spots remaining so email her today to get in on this super special opportunity: tarah@tarahcyel.com
  • My new favorite app   Overcast. I feel a bit like I’m cheating on Apple, but I’ve been so annoyed with my iPhone’s podcast app since the latest upgrade. I decided to switch over to this podcast player and I’m LOVING it! Much simpler to use and easier to binge listen to my favorite podcasts!
  • Pointless but joyful purchase – Holiday dog waste bags from Petco. Makes picking up poop just a little more festive.
  • What I’m STILL buzzzzzzing about – I know I mentioned our BLE Buzz membership last week, but I’m SOOOOO excited about it and enrollment is about to close on 11/15/17! Join us for weekly live training calls, a membership site full of recordings, exercises, & resources, and unlimited support from me, Pua, and a community of badass buzzers living their Best Life Ever! There is a 7 day free trial, but I have a gift for you! Use the code BUZZFREEMONTH and get a whole month free! See you in the Buzz! bestlifeever.buzz/blebuzz
  • NEW Service I’m offering – Overwhelmed to Inspired Big Vision Session! I’m so excited to announce a new coaching service I’m offering for a limited time! Get inspired, organized, and focused with the app I use to organize EVERYTHING – Trello! In this spiritual + practical 75 minute session, we will take all of the ideas, thoughts, desires, dreams, and to-dos spinning in your head (and heart) and organize them into a digital platform that you can use each day to make real progress towards your Big Vision. Think of this as goal setting + dream boarding + task management. Limited sessions available. Find out more and book here.

Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

5-Bullet Aloha Friday

Happy Aloha Friday! And Happy November! Anyone feeling “busy”? After all, ’tis the season..of busyness. When I work with clients who are feeling “crazy busy” this time of year, one of the first things we look at is whether this is Chronic Busyness or Seasonal Busyness. I wrote a Best Life Ever blog post awhile back about understanding the difference between these two types of busyness because it’s such an important distinction to make. If you’re experiencing a little seasonal busyness as you gear up for the holidays, be easy on yourself and read up on a few strategies that you can use to lighten your load over the next few months 😉

And now for 5 things I’ve been enjoying and pondering:

  • What I’m buzzzzzzing about – BLE Buzz enrollment is open right now through 11/15/17! Life is too damn short to suffer through the week feeling overwhelmed, tired, and unproductive. We designed the Buzz to help people to reclaim their time, energy, relationships, and joy while they continue to CRUSH IT at work and in life. Give yourself the best Christmas gift EVER & join us for weekly live training calls, a membership site full of recordings, exercises, & resources, and unlimited support from me, Pua, and a community of badass buzzers living their Best Life Ever! There is a 7 day free trial, but I have a gift for you! Use the code BUZZFREEMONTH and get a whole month free! See you in the Buzz! bestlifeever.buzz/blebuzz
  • What else I’m excited about – Our Shift to Rise retreat is really coming to life. Check out this FREE training, “How to Get Unstuck”, from our Shift Team! We have another Shift webinar coming up next Thursday on “How to do a life inventory” and we’re announcing $4444 worth of bonuses for this retreat including a special dinner with us Shift leaders and an extra night of stay! Find out more and join our mailing list at www.shifttorise.com by simply clicking to apply (you can choose to apply now or later, but there only 5 bonus packages available through 11/15, so action-takers will be rewarded abundantly!)
  • App I’m loving   Yummly. This app is the best thing ever for meal prep and grocery shopping! Search and save your favorite recipes from the interwebs, search based on ingredients on-hand and dietary preferences, make shopping lists, and even schedule when you want to prepare things!
  • What I’ve been drinking lately – Dirty Chais from Brue Bar. Chai + espresso tastes like gingerbread and feels like productivity!
  • My new favorite nighttime ritual –  Wonderfluff from Acure. I’m obsessed with this affordable, organic, overnight hydrating face mask/cream. Plus I love the quirky language on the tube: “You want some serious winkle fighting, you got it! Yes, we said ‘winkle fighting’. Winkle’s are the magical elves who sneak in at night and try to steal your pretty.”

Wishing you a wonderful weekend!!!!!!!!

P.S. Are you ready to really begin transforming your life? Let’s talk

Are you Comfortably Uncomfortable?

This has been a weird week with lots of heavy energy in the air. Hope you all are doing OK and that you’ve gentle with yourself as you process all the emotions that may have been coming up for you this week. Consider a little extra self-care this weekend.  Slowing down, meditating, journaling, getting out in nature, and talking with a trusted friend, mentor, coach or counselor can all help. Take a few moments to ask your inner wisdom what you need most right now.

And now for 5 things I’ve been enjoying and pondering:

  • Quote I’m pondering – “If you don’t take action, don’t expect change” from this awesome article about why the majority of people don’t reach their goals (they are “comfortably uncomfortable” in their current circumstances). So good!
  • App I’m (still) loving – Funny Movie Maker! This past week I rediscovered this hilarious app on my phone. Our family has been having fun sending ridiculous messages to each other with photos of our pets talking. It’s the best thing ever.
  • Service I’m grateful for – Upwork. This global freelancing platform has 12 million(!) registered freelancers and allows you to interview, hire and work with freelancers and agencies through their platform. We’re working with a wonderful SEO/wordpress expert from India name Soni who is doing an incredible amount of quality work for us for $100. We’ve used Upwork for all kinds of projects such as PDF and eBook creation, graphic design – the possibilities are endless!
  • Cool network I love – NextDoor.com This is the free private social network for your neighborhood community. I love being plugged in to all the happenings in my neighborhood and being able to post/comment/direct message neighbors. Makes me feel safe, connected, and supported in my ‘hood.
  • Supplements I’m obsessed with – Ciltep, Dopamine, and MycoMind from Natural Stacks! We were sent some samples from this amazing company and OMG my brain has been ON FIRE! Taken in the morning on an empty stomach, these natural brain optimization supplements clear up brain fog and supercharge memory, motivation, focus, and creativity!

Wishing you a wonderful weekend. Remember, don’t let being “comfortably uncomfortable” in your current circumstances stop you from reaching your goals. If you want to take your life to the next level, ask yourself what NEW action, big or small, you can take TODAY.

And if you want an objective perspective, powerful accountability, and would like to save time, energy, and stress in the pursuit of your goals, reach out to me. Time is a precious resource that we don’t get it back. Let’s get you to where you want to go. 

Essentialism, Online Coaching, Easy Cash Exchanges, and Pinot Tracking

Happy November 1. What are you working on this month? I’m committing to more writing, more sleep, more joy, and more quality time with friends and family. I’ve really been inspired lately by multiple podcast interviews I’ve heard with Greg McKeown, the author of Essentialism, the Disciplined Pursuit of Less.  Here is a description of the book:

The Way of the Essentialist isn’t about getting more done in less time. It’s not about getting less done. It’s about getting only the right things done. It’s about challenging the core assumption of ‘we can have it all’ and ‘I have to do everything’ and replacing it with the pursuit of ‘the right thing, in the right way, at the right time’. It’s about regaining control of our own choices about where to spend our time and energies instead of giving others implicit permission to choose for us.

McKeown talks about the importance of doing a quarterly inventory of your life to identify what is truly essential. When we are trapped in the daily grind, we tend to feel like everything is essential and important, when in fact, very little actually is. He suggests that the quickest way to identify what is essential to you is to ask a few simple, but provocative questions: If you had only one week to live, what would you do? If you had only a month to live, what would you do? If you had only a year to live, what would you do? And if you had the rest of your life to live, what would you do? 

Try this exercise and you’ll quickly discover whether or not your lifestyle and the things you are doing each day are in alignment with your values and your heart’s desires. We tend to delay our dreams and the things that bring us true joy for a time when “things settle down” or “when we get through this or that”, but that day never seems to come and suddenly you realize much more time has passed than you had intended. Instead, see what non-essential tasks, obligations, or other stuff you can dump, delegate, automate, simplify, or optimize so that you can make space for joy TODAY. 

Don’t just think about what you want to achieve this month, this about how you want to FEEL. Commit to pursuing the RIGHT things for you. And as you do, here is a round-up of a few fun apps I’m loving right now that you can incorporate into your dream lifestyle. 

Lift and Lift Coaching Lift is a cool app and community that helps you to “put your goals into actions”. There are expert-led plans or you can create custom goals. You can use Lift to help hold you accountable and keep you focused on anything you are trying to achieve. There is a great story in the productivity/life hacker community about comedian Jerry Seinfield’s secret to success. He simply committed to writing jokes everyday, good or bad, and marked each day that he wrote on a calendar. Us humans have something inside of our brains that makes us not want to “break the chain”. Lift works in the same way. Psychologically we start by simply wanting to keep the chain going, and then eventually we’ve created new habits. I’m extra excited about Lift now because they have just launched “Lift Coaching” and there is code currently on the site for 2 weeks free coaching (otherwise it is $14.95/month). I just hired a coach to help me create a daily writing habit, something I’ve been really struggling with. She has already messaged me with great advice and the accountability factor of having someone checking in on me to see if I’m writing is exactly what I was missing. 

Cash by Square Inc. I learned about this cool app from Less Doing guru, Ari Meisel. I’m currently participating in his awesome 8-week Less Doing Bootcamp and I’m totally geeking out on some of the cool tools we’re learning more about. If you aren’t familiar with Ari’s work, drop everything and get his life-changing book “Less Doing, More Living” – the man’s a genius! The Cash app solves the mildly annoying problem of cash exchanges. In the past week I’ve saved myself the time and stress of having to run to the ATM or trying to remember that I have to pay someone back for something multiple times. You simply download the app to your smartphone and link your bank card to it (read all about Cash Security here) . The person on the other end does the same. You can request or send money. It’s similar to Paypal but it’s FREE. I’ve used it this week to send money to a friend collecting for a birthday gift, to pay an assistant, and to collect money for a Community Supported Agriculture bag of veggies that I front the cash for.  

Delectable Wine App  I love a good glass (ok, maybe a few glasses) of Pinot Noir once in a while. When I do indulge, I want to make sure I’m drinking something that I absolutely love, but I never really had a great system for tracking the wines that I fall in love with. I would take photos of wines I like, but then they would get buried forever in my iPhoto, meaning I end up buying the same 2 wines again and again. Enter, Delectable! This FREE wine app is like Instagram for wine lovers. You take a photo of the wine label and it will show you what other Delectable users have said about it and how they have rated it. You can use this app to track the wines by taking your own photos and note and you can also use it to help you determine what you want to purchase. You have the option to follow sommeliers and other users. You can even tag who you are sharing a bottle with and where you are so that you can remember special moments. My last Delectable post – A smooth and delicious Chilean Pinot Noir from Pinot Evil Cellars I discovered on sale at CVS for $5! I rarely trust cheap wines, but this one was outstanding and the reviews confirmed it. Here is one Delectable member’s take on it: “Clean, light raspberry nose. Dry, medium acidity, low tannin, light body. Flavors of raspberry and red plum, hint of damp hay. Short finish.” 

Cheers to your “Essentialist” November. Wishing you lots of mental space and time to design and create your dream life, full, but not too full, of the all the RIGHT things for you. 

 

 

The Insanity Loop: 3 Steps to Getting Unstuck

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Have you ever been stuck in a cycle of wanting to change something, trying to change, not being able to change, thinking there is something wrong with you, trying harder to change, getting mad that you can’t, trying again, getting frustrated, beating yourself up for your lack of willpower, and then trying again only to continue to “fail”? Maybe you talk about how you haven’t been able to do something no matter how hard you try, but this time you’ll just try harder in the hopes that something will be different this time around. I’ve been talking to a lot of people about this phenomenon lately and have been wrestling with this myself, frankly. This is what I call, “The Insanity Loop”, based on Einstein’s definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. The fact is that we often needlessly drive ourselves insane by using all of our energy to work HARDER instead of SMARTER.At Egan’s Training Center, we are always being reminded in jiu jitsu training, that the focus is on using your individual strengths, correct positioning, and leverage. This is especially important if your opponent is bigger or stronger than you. Instead of trying desperately, again and again, to outpower someone, a simple shift in position and mindset can save you tons of energy and create the opportunity to use their force to your advantage.

If you find yourself stuck in The Insanity Loop, expending lots of energy trying to outpower (or out-willpower) something you are up against, here are 3 steps you can use to help break the cycle and get unstuck:

1 – Know Yourself. The first step is coming to terms with you who are and what your strengths and weaknesses are. Take some time to really examine the chronic issues, habits, or behaviors that are getting in the way of your success. The key here is do this without judgement. Do you hit your snooze button 50 times every morning? Righteous! Do you find it impossible to say no to red wine/hot bread/chocolate chip cookies? Yum! That’s just who you are, baby. Do you love writing blog posts, but don’t schedule time for it and then scramble to get them done? Yup, that’s me! It’s all good. The first step is awareness and acceptance. Write down on a piece of paper what you want and then what you do to sabotage yourself. Then have a good laugh about it. We all have our shit and that’s what makes us special and awesome. And keep in mind, who we are and what we want is always changing and evolving, so finding the time to do this type of self-reflection on a regular basis is part of living a life by design.

2 – Hack Your Environment and Shift Your Position. The bottom line is that it is a heck of a lot easier to change our environment or our positioning than it is to change our personality or behaviors. Take a look at that piece of paper again and think of ways that you can “hack your environment” to support your goals. If you snooze your alarm clock so many times you constantly miss your morning workouts, instead of beating yourself for being unable to get up, move your alarm clock across the room so you have to get up and turn it off. Or get a dog that wakes you up because he has to pee or a cat that slaps your face every morning with a furry paw because she’s hungry. Or perhaps you can “shift your position” to work with who you are, and not against it, by switching to afternoon workouts. Remember, when nothing goes right, go left.

We can also use technology to hack our environment and create external reminders and pressure to help us shift. Whatever it is that you are trying to achieve, put reminders on your phone to get to the gym, or log your food, or call your mom. Use a tool like Resnooze to send email reminders to your inbox, hire someone on Fiverr for $5 to call you everyday for a month to ask you if you are staying on track. We have endless tools at our fingertips – use them to make it impossible to forget what you are trying to achieve.

3 – Put Accountability to Work. Accountability is our best friend when breaking out of The Insanity Loop and creating new habits. Accountability can come in many forms, but the main idea is to share with one person, or many, about what you are trying to achieve so that it matters in some way whether you do it or not. You can tell your best friend, your family, share it on Facebook, join a community of like-minded individuals, make a bet with someone, create a mastermind group, etc. The whole point is that more than likely, you have been trying to change in a bubble with no real external consequences. Use accountability to up the ante and the more it scares you the better! If being held accountable for something makes your palms sweat and gives you those little nervous butterflies in your stomach, that means your dreams are big and the stakes are high and that is a recipe for success!

You may want to consider doing these exercises and brainstorming with a friend, or friends, someone who can help you get creative and think of out-of-the-box solutions to your challenges since it is often difficult for us to see clearly when we’re stuck in the muck of insanity. I’d love to hear all about the creative ways that you break out of The Insanity Loop! Please share in the comments and inspire others.

If you’re looking for another way to get unstuck when it comes to health, fitness, and nutrition, please join me this Saturday, August 16th, for my “Healthy Body, Happy Life” class. This is the last one of this series that I will be teaching at Happiness U this year, so if you’ve been thinking about it, I hope you can join us for this final class. I love teaching this class and have so much to share! Please register to reserve your spot.