Kimi’s 5-Bullet Aloha Friday (Last One of 2017!)

Happy December! New month and almost the end of another year. With all the holiday happenings, Best Life Ever business shifts and growth we’ve been focused on, our Shift to Rise retreat, and #allthethings, I have really been feeling the need to get centered.

Listening to this calling, I declared today, “Get Yo’ Shit Together Friday” and did a total brain dump (using Trello of course!) and a deep calendar review.

When I start feeling overwhelmed and my ego starts in with that old limiting belief, “I don’t have enough time”, instead of hustling HARDER like I used to, I now work on SLOWING DOWN. I create white space by clearing my calendar (that meant saying NO to a few things today), turning off notifications, and then I ask myself some simple questions like:

  • What’s REALLY bothering me?
  • What is most urgent/important?
  • How can I make my life easier?
  • How can I get ahead/hook up my future self (HUMFS)?
  • What does my spirit need most right now?
  • How can I create more ease, joy, fun, and FREEDOM in my life?
  • And probably the most important question – What can I say NO to?

Your ego will try to tell you that you don’t have time to slow down, but your spirit will speak to you when you do, and life will become much more clear.

Less hustle, more alignment. 

One of the things I’m cutting back on for the rest of this year is certain forms of tech and communication, which is why this will be my last post until sometime in new year! I’lll be dropping back in once the dust settles after the holidays, but you can always follow me on Instagram, our Best Life Ever Tribe on FB and our BLE IG, etc.

OK, so here we go – our last 5-bullet Aloha Friday round-up of 2017!

5 things I’m loving/excited about:

Have a wonderful holiday season! I encourage you to create some time to slow down and ask yourself some quality questions that will improve your quality of life and bring you some well-deserved peace and joy as we move into 2018! Cheers and GINORMOUS hugs!

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Celebrating Life and Leveling Up

Happy September! Here we are! A fresh slate, limitless possibility…what are you going to do to make this month amazing? Did you know that there are just 121 days until 2015? What small shifts can you make, or daily action can you take beginning now that will create big results that you can celebrate on New Year’s Eve?  

If you are looking for some inspiration, check out Give it 100, a community of people who have committed to giving 100 days to improving themselves in some way. Their video journals are so inspiring and are a great reminder that it’s the little effort we put in daily that creates the big results we so desire. Not to mention that usually within the first month, the brain begins to rewire itself, creating new habits and replacing less desirable ones. Not sure what to give 100 days to? Here are some questions to get you thinking: 

  • What would you love to do but always say you have no time for? 
  • What are you sick of hearing yourself say you are “bad” at? 
  • What do you think is holding you back? 
  • What have you always wanted to be able to do? 
  • What stops you from going places or participating in things that you want to be a part of? 
  • What thing do you see others doing that makes you envious? 
  • What do you tell yourself you’re too old/stupid/fat/slow/young/broke/mature for? 
  • What would make you ridiculously happy? 
  • What skill would you ask a genie in a lamp to give you? 
  • What is the most important thing you could do for your career/life/family/relationship/health? 
  • What party trick would you love to be able to show off at a New Year’s Eve party? 

While I have not yet decided what I’m going to “give 100” to, today I did my ritual of monthly planning and this month I am committing to less worry, less sugar, more writing, more meditation, more gratitude, more laughter, more sweat, more sleep, more “frogs”, and more fun! And since September is my BIRTHDAY MONTH, I’m also focusing on self-care and getting ready for my end-of-the-month birthday staycation. Oh yeah! 

For me, September is a month-long celebration of life and leveling up. What are you celebrating this month? 

P.S. Did you notice my fresh new website? Big thanks to my super awesome BF who converted my wordpress blog to this supah fancy Square Space site! There’s even a cool “subscribe” button for you to sign up for my email newsletter so we can be connected and you won’t miss a thing I share about events, classes, resources, and other fun stuff. Yay! 

Goals, Goals, Goals! 4 Ways to Bring the Sexy Back to Your Goal Setting

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Being in the health/fitness/self-improvement/business world, we talk about goals A LOT. Do you have goals? What are your goals? How are you doing on your goals? How I can help you reach your goals? What are my goals? When will I reach my goals? Why haven’t I reached my goals? Goals goals goals goals goals goals goals. We set them, we break ‘um down, we make ‘um big, we make ‘um small, we revise ‘um, we reset ‘um, we reach ‘um, we don’t, and then we set some more.

Now, I’m not saying that goals are not important or necessary to help us evolve on this planet and help us to realize our dreams. However, sometimes we can get so locked in our idea of what goals and goal setting SHOULD look like, that we are left feeling uninspired, unmotivated, and exhausted…especially, if we are NOT REACHING THEM. Setting clear goals, reaching them, and reveling in our success before we set another goal is enjoyable and fulfilling. Setting goals, forgetting about them or not working towards them, feeling guilty about not reaching them, then resetting the same goals again and again is frustrating and depressing.

Too often, our addiction to well-intended but uninspired and redundant goal setting, traps us in a purgatory of empty living, stuck somewhere between the life we are desperately trying to improve upon and the awesome life we can describe, but can’t seem to access. If your GOALS are dragging you down instead of lifting you up, here are four ways to shake things up:

  1. DUMP YOUR S.M.A.R.T. GOALS: Your goals are boring. Seriously. If you’re falling asleep just thinking about your goals, check out this kickass podcast of motivational powerhouse Brendan Burchard, who challenges our society’s obsession with left-brain “S.M.A.R.T.” goal setting. In this podcast he suggests that we set some “D.U.M.B.” goals instead. This podcast is sure to fire you up to set some goals that are bigger, crazier, and more uplifting than our boring “specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time-based goals” (zzzzzzz). Set some stupid, wild, ginormous, radical, make-you-want-to-jump-out-of-bed, people-think-you’re-nuts kind of goals for a change! Spend some time dreaming and visioning beyond what your rational left-brain, sensible self can conceive of, and consider that anything less than big visioning is settling for mediocrity.
  2. FOCUS ON YOUR FEELINGS: Instead of setting goals tied to what you want to get, try focusing on how you want to FEEL. We tend to set goals like, “I want to lose 10 pounds” or, “I want to make $10,000 a month”, focusing only on what we want not WHY we want it. Instead of the WHAT, try focusing on how you believe those things will make you feel. Perhaps you want to lose 10 pounds so that you can FEEL confident on the beach, and therefore feel more willing to go to the beach with your family instead of missing out, and therefore feel more connected to your family. It’s not really about those 10 pounds as much as it is about confidence, freedom, and connectedness. By expanding your vision to the FEELINGS you desire, you may realize that there are other ways you can begin feeling those things right now, and that there is action you can take immediately, instead of buying into the depressing false reality that you can’t feel those things until you reach your goal. Yes, you can exercise more and eat cleaner, but you can also get a new flattering swimsuit and sexy sarong, plan some family outings in an environment you feel comfortable, and commit to being more present with your family. The magical thing is that when we start focusing on, and embodying the feelings that we think those original goals will bring us, we may suddenly look up and realize that we have reached our goals without even realizing it!
  3. FOCUS ON YOUR PROCESS: Part of what tends to keep us in that uninspired goal setting loop of doom is setting countless goals, but having no process or system to reach them. If you think about it, goals are really just wishes or dreams…they are these things we want, but unless we have a strategic plan for getting them, they are just floating out there like pretty butterflies. If you want to catch a butterfly, you can sit and hope and pray that it lands on you (and by the way if it does, then what – have you really thought this through?) or you can grab a net, a jar with some holes in the top, and maybe a few friends to help you corner that sucker. Get a piece of paper and write down all your goals. Then title that list, “dreams”. Now take each one of those and write down 10 action steps you can take to make each of your dreams come true, and get to work.
  4. SUPERCHARGE WITH ACCOUNTABILITY: There is plenty of evidence that accountability is often what separates high achievers from the rest of the pack. Creating some type of accountability system to help us stay focused on what we are working towards can significantly increase the likelihood of seeing something through, staying motivated along the way, and it can also make the journey way more fun. We are hardwired to want to get things done if we put it out there – sometimes because we want to be a person of our word and because we don’t want to let ourselves or others down, and sometimes because we don’t want to look like a jackass. Either way, give accountability a try – find an accountability buddy, create a mastermind group, find a support group or community in your neighborhood or online, start a blog, post on Facebook, make bets with your friends and family, wear it on a shirt, shout it from the roof tops, put it out there so that it matters in some way if you don’t do it. And if you still don’t seem to be getting what you want, lean on those around you to help give you insight as to why this may be, since accountability is also about taking responsibility for what we are doing or not doing.
One final word on goals and goal setting…as you are thinking about what you want, be sure to constantly check in and make sure your goals/dreams/wishes/process/action plan is what YOU really want, not what you think you SHOULD want or someone else’s idea about what you SHOULD want. It’s impossible to create our dream life when we’re “should-ing” all over ourselves. Be sure the life you’re designing is yours and be sure that the method and plan you have for getting there is fun, inspiring, and joyous…because frankly, if it’s not, every time you hear those damn words “enjoy the journey” you’re going to want to punch someone in the face. Now, go get ‘um, tiger!