How to Be a Boss Bitch

I’m gonna start this blog the same way most bloggers have started at least one blog…the whole “so, I took a break from blogging and now I’m back” intro. I’ve read enough blogs to know that no one cares. You’re just here for the content, maybe you’re not feeling like a Boss Bitch right now and you’re hoping something here will flip that boss bitch switch back on. Me too! So let’s get to it.

First, let’s define “Boss Bitch”. A Boss Bitch is a fierce badass who takes radical responsibility and total ownership of her life. She knows that if her vibe is low and things aren’t going the way she’d like, she’s the only one that can unfuck herself. She knows that her vibration is her responsibility and that no matter what is going on in her world, it starts there. She’s responsible for the energy she brings into a space.

A Boss Bitch leads even when her crown and heart feel heavy. She listens to the whispers of the Universe (or the SHOUTS to which she’ll probably shout back, “Fine!”). She’s not afraid to ask for help when she needs it, but she’s resourceful as fuck. She’s always looking for magical ways to get back into the vortex when she’s feeling off, which is how I know you’re a Boss Bitch (I see you, Gorgeous).

So, how do Boss Bitches get their Fiercedom back? Here’s how to BOSS UP when you need it most:

Take Inventory. With pen and paper (or laptop), do a Brain Dump of everything swimming around in that pretty little head. Konmari the fuck out of your thoughts and feelings. Lay them all out so that you can REALLY see what you’re dealing with. From there you can decide what sparks joy and what you’re ready to let go of with gratitude. Boss Bitches don’t shove everything in a back room to deal with “later”.

Ask WHO not HOW. If you’ve got things going on that you don’t know how to manage or figure out, stop agonizing over HOW and start asking WHO. Who can help? Who has been through something similar? Who might have the answer? Who has offered support to you in the past? And if you don’t know WHO? Who might know WHO? While this might sound like a Dr. Suess rhyme, Boss Bitches know that even though they often know how, it’s not their job to always know.

Shake it Up, Shake it Off. Boss Bitches allow themselves to feel what they need to feel, but they do it with awareness and they put a timer on that shit. When their inner timer goes ding, even if it’s before they feel ready they get hit their go-to list of things sure to change their state. This is their “Shake it Up, Shake it Off list” and today is the day you will make your own. Write out a list of 27 things (a fortuitous number in Feng Shui) that create a state change in yourself and your environment. Here’s my list:

  1. Take a shower
  2. Get gussied up
  3. Put on running shoes (for action) or heels (for sass)
  4. Make my bed
  5. Clean off my desk
  6. Speed clean the house
  7. Get outside for some fresh air
  8. Go for a run
  9. Brazilian jiu-jitsu training
  10. Call my mom
  11. Call/text my BFFs
  12. Hug my kids
  13. Snuggle with my BF
  14. Eat something delicious
  15. Have a strong cup of coffee
  16. Play with our dog
  17. Write
  18. Blast music
  19. Listen to a podcast
  20. Reach out and offer support to others
  21. Take a nap
  22. Write a gratitude list
  23. Do something bold and brave
  24. Do something I’ve been putting off
  25. Meditate
  26. Wine + Netflix
  27. Ask Spirit what I need most

Now it’s your turn. Take inventory, ask “who” not “how”, shake it up and shake it off. Whatever you’re going through right now, remember that you can’t have rainbows without a little rain. Any setbacks you’re experiencing are just setting you up for one hell of a Boss Bitch comeback! Roar!